Getting THE note from school!

by Kathy Sykes on November 9, 2010 · 3 comments

Yes, we got the first “note” from school regarding our son’s behavior. I knew itwould come sooner or later due to the fact that we know that our son loooooooooves to play and would play all day if he got the chance. But now that he is in preschool, there is a time and place for all things and he is beginning to learn that.

The “note” was letting us know that our child was not listening or following directions when asked but what struck me most of all was that the teacher wanted us, as parents, to talk with him about the importance of doing the above. Why did that make an impact on me? Because your first inclination as parents is to discipline your child for “bad” behavior. But for a three year old toddler, is discipline necessary or is instruction and direction for knowing how to handle himself in certain situation more appropriate? I agree with the latter.

Most three year old children, who are entering preschool, are just learning how to socialize with a group of children “outside” of the playground. Their first instinct is to play and have as much fun as possible. This same scenario plays out in church, libraries, and other places where adults feel like children should be still and pay attention. It’s a learned behavior over time.

This is just the beginning of equipping our children to respond appropriately to different situations in life. This may be one of the most fundamentally important things we teach our children. Choose to live and teach our responses to life wisely. Our children are watching!

How do you respond when you get a NOTE home from your child’s school/teacher?

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tristan November 9, 2010 at 1:42 pm

I personally don’t know cause I have no children, but my mother would only talk one time and if another note came home for the same thing the belt would do the talkin!!! If It happens again you just may to pray that demon out….lol


Chareen January 16, 2012 at 1:44 am

Instruction and direction definitely. This is a new experience for him. A chat about what to do on the way to school is good too my friend calls this pre activity coaching just the way a coach encourages a team before the game.
Encourage him to look at his teacher when she / he speaks to him and for him to respond by saying “Yes ….Mam/sir”. Some three year olds when in a group situation do not realise they are being spoken to. Ask the teacher if he is responding to direct instruction if she uses his name ? Or is this a group instruction problem.
Poor little guy is only 3. It takes time to learn new things.
It will come in time.


Kathy Sykes January 16, 2012 at 1:26 pm

Those are great ideas and suggestions. Thanks for stopping by.


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